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How to find motivation to train when the finish line keeps moving

It feels like it’s only been about 5 minutes since I sat down to write this blog post for Stolen Goat, on finding a form of ordinary during lockdown number 1 and the power of routine. And yet, here we are. Almost 8 months later and we find ourselves in the middle of lockdown 2.0 - or as I like to call it, ‘Lockdown: the shitty sequel’. So first of all, I hope that you’re safe and well, and treating yourself with the kindness and compassion that I just know you’ll be extending to others (because the few lovely people that happen to read my ramblings are just that - lovely). 

I think, for a lot of us, over the spring and summer training was an outlet - a space of normalcy amid the madness and a little bit of an escape. But I’ve noticed quite a few people struggling to find their get up and go, their oomph and their motivation this time around. And I’d like to start by saying if that’s you, whether it’s exercise-related, work-related, just general life-related - you are 100% not alone and what you’re feeling is not only normal, but completely justified. I think we’re all just tired, jaded and struggling to see a tangible end point to cling on to for that little shine of hope. This whole thing has gone on far longer than any of us could have anticipated back in March. I can’t fix it, but I can say that if you need a friendly ear, or just someone to join you in yelling some swear words out into the abyss - I’m here.

Anyway, on to the reason I sat down at my laptop (wearing my fanciest loungewear jumpsuit, of course). With all of this madness going on, how are we supposed to find the motivation to keep training through the winter? Especially when what would usually be a concrete race date looming in the diary is very much up in the air. I’m no expert, but one thing I’ve learned about myself this year is that I actually don’t need a race per se to stay motivated. Turns out I’m just a bit of a weirdo who loves the process and has a nice back-up generator of intrinsic motivation that I had no idea was there until 2020 went all 2020 on us. Here’s my two, disinfected, pennies on finding your motivation:

Before we start. Ask yourself the question: ‘Do I actually need to be training?’
The first thing to do is differentiate between training and exercising. The former involves a solid structure, the odd slightly gruesome session and dragging your arse out of bed to get the work done, even on the days when you really can’t be arsed. The latter is about staying active and taking care of your overall wellbeing by getting your body moving in a way that brings you joy on that particular day. It might be a run, it might be chasing your sausage dog around the kitchen table, it might be a living room disco with borderline vulgar butt shaking dance moves. It’s just whatever you feel like doing, without a plan or pressure. If the former - structured training - isn’t bringing you joy, and you don’t actually need to be doing it (i.e. you haven’t got a race, or a goal quite yet) then maybe give yourself a break, show yourself some kindness and just focus on the latter? You can be fit and healthy, without having to grind yourself into the ground with the hardcore training. And I promise, when you’re ready to get going again with gusto, your body will remember what to do.

“Yeah okay that’s nice and all but actually, I want to train, I want  to feel motivated - I’m just struggling to find it right now.” No problem, I got you - keep reading!

1) Give yourself a moment to “grieve” for the 2020 goals that just weren’t meant to be.
I know in the grand scheme of things, for us age-groupers, if not being able to race is the worst thing that’s happened this year, we are truly privileged (I know I am!) - but that doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to be disappointed. We all had big plans, we all allowed ourselves to dream. We put ourselves out there, trained hard through the early stages of the year, only to have it snatched away by something entirely out of our control. That’s frustrating, and if you’re like me and a big part of your sense of self is tied up in triathlon - it’s kind of disorientating. You know when Joey from Friends asks “if you don’t have a TV what do you point your furniture at?” - I was kind of like that. If I haven’t got racing, what do I point my fire, my grit and my determination at? Let yourself have a moment to be a little bit sad about the cool stuff you didn’t get to do - it’ll help you to let it go, reset and refocus.

2) Go back to the very beginning and find your initial why: a shift to intrinsic motivation
Think back to the very first time that pesky little voice in your head said “hey, do you know what seems like a good idea? Pouring myself into lycra and swim-bike-running at an ungodly hour on a Sunday morning!” What made you think that? The race is a symptom, not a cause. We train because we have a race to prepare for - but why (why oh why!) did we enter in the first place? Because it’s that, whatever it was, that’s your true and intrinsic “why”. For me it started off with proving to myself that “yes, I bloody well can.” It was about the challenge, finding confidence and finding the bravery to put myself out there. And then, after I’d done it once and of course got completely hooked it was, “Okay, so what can my body do? How far can I push it? What am I capable of?” And, spoiler alert, I don’t need a race to be able to find the answer to those questions - to answer that why. I just need to get up every day and give my body - that so graciously puts up with my bullshit - the chance to show me what it can do. 

What made you want to train for a triathlon in the first place? What is it about triathlon that gives you that pit of the stomach, back of the throat feeling that made you want to face the fear, step into the unknown and give it your best shot? Answer those questions honestly, and I’d bet a slice of the dark chocolate sea salt tart I just made that it’ll help you to remember your why, find your intrinsic motivation, and feel a little bit more positive about training again. Go back to what made you love triathlon in the first place. The challenge, the process, the community. That's all still there, race day or no race day.

3) What you can, when you can: set non-race related stepping stone goals that are completely yours, and that can’t be taken away.
Usually when I sit down at the end of race season and set my goals for the following year, it’s all about the race. The conversation revolves around what race and when. How I can improve to be fitter, faster, stronger in time for that race. But take the race out of the equation - and I can still set goals for that “fitter, faster, stronger” element. It might just be that I have to do things a little differently to find out.
Think about some goals you can set that don’t rely on a particular race, happening on a particular day. I really hope we can all get back out there next season - but at this stage, the only thing that’s certain is uncertainty. 

There are two ways to do this. First of all it can be process goals: it might be to set a new FTP on the bike, improve your flexibility, or to hit a new threshold run pace. These stepping stones give you something to aim for now, that’s within your control, and they’ll help to make you stronger once racing is firmly back on the agenda.

The other thing to do is to create your own mini races. You can set outcome or performance goals, that you can work towards and measure without having to do a big organised race. I did my own little solo 70.3 back in the summer, and my husband (pre-lockdown #2) did a marathon “race” that just involved him and friend showing up at a particular location on a set day, and running as fast as they could for 26.2 miles. Set yourself a goal and then put a date on it and work towards it as if it was a race. It might not be quite the same, but hey - you still get to work through a process and see what the outcome is. And you still get to have post-“race” beers. Not only does it give you something to focus on and work towards, it’s also golden material for your mental filing cabinet. If you can go out and test your limits without the excitement and the crowds of a proper race, imagine how much deeper you’ll be able to dig when that big juicy race day carrot is back.

4) It can’t rain forever 
At some point, this shit storm will pass, and doing what you can, when you can now will put you in a good place to hit the ground swim-bike-running when the time comes. That might be treating this like the world’s longest off-season, going back to your old pal Zone 2 and building up a base of endurance that’s sturdier than ever before. It might be giving yourself the freedom to completely disregard the usual calendar of racing and the associated structure it requires, to set some wildly different goals that keep you bright-eyed and bushy-tailed now. It might be finally getting that bike fit sorted or practicing your transitions. Or it might just be giving yourself permission to step off the treadmill - both literally and metaphorically - and making the most of the space for some extra rest and recovery, so you’re in a good place when the time is right.

5) Cut yourself some slack
We're in the middle of a global pandemic, with no clear end in sight. Everything is relentlessly weird and uncertain. You will have days where you feel like shit, where everything seems pointless. Accept these days, and let yourself feel how you need to feel. I speak from experience when I say that trying to fight against these feelings, forcing yourself to just keep spinning the plates will only lead to a bigger crash. Take a day, take a week. Do what you need to do. Regardless of what Instagram might have you believing, you don't have to spend lockdown being relentlessly productive - baking banana bread while standing on your head, learning ancient scriptures by heart and crocheting your own underpants. Cut yourself some slack (and maybe a slice of cake while you're at it).

Swim, bike, run, stay sane: triathlon saved me from myself

Ever since my little epiphany back in 2017, triathlon had become my safe space. The one area of my life where anxiety couldn’t get me. Where I didn’t experience the excruciating self-doubt of imposter syndrome. Where I could find and actually grasp my “yes I bloody well can.” I’ve often felt like I’m going through life on one of those big inflatable things you see at fun fairs, where the players are attached to giant bungee cords and have to run as far as they can before the thing pulls them backwards. Except, instead of a nice soft inflatable, I’m met with a steel-enforced brick wall as the gremlins in my mind haul me back. But then I found triathlon, and when I was training and racing, I was free: to run, to push myself, to find my limits and then step a toe just over the edge. And that self-belief started to seep out of triathlon, into other areas of my life. Suddenly I wasn’t so afraid to stand up, to put myself forward. To say to myself ‘hey, do you know what - maybe I can actually do this.’ Triathlon filled my mental filing cabinet up with examples of when I’d been able to prove to myself that I was worthy and capable.

Triathlon was my fortress, my princess castle up on a hill where anxiety couldn’t infect the edges of everything with it’s darkness. Until suddenly, it wasn’t. I felt like I stepped across the finish line at Ironman Zurich 2019 and right over a cliff edge. Except I didn’t even realise I was falling until I’d almost hit the bottom. I set myself some pretty big goals for Ironman Vitoria 2020. The positive drive and motivation that had got me through my first two Ironman races slowly, silently became more about fear and punishment. The runaway train of “not good enough” had come crashing into my triathlon station, and I’d gone from finally experiencing some oh-so elusive self-belief, to seeing myself failing every time I closed my eyes. 

Fast forward to January. My A race for the year was 7 months away. And yet my mind had already decided I was going to let myself down. I could taste the anguish, feel the hurt in anticipation. The carrot of that finish line euphoria, turned into a barbed-wire clad stick. Rather than being about getting stronger, each session became about trying to out-run the failure I could feel nipping at my heels. And it was terrifying. Exhausting. Infuriating. Triathlon was mine and now those darkest corners of my mind were taking it away from me. 

The thing with living with anxiety is that you get good at just enduring. I didn’t realise how heavily it was all weighing on my shoulders until one Sunday morning when I found myself in the middle of Woburn Sands woods, attempting to complete a warm up before a hard, 2 x 20 minutes trail run session. And it was like I just collapsed - metaphorically - under the strain of it all that had been building up over more months than I’d care to admit. I can remember just stopping, dead, in the middle of the trail. My husband noticed the lack of my foot steps behind his and turned to find me doubled over, finally releasing those full-body sobs of tears that make your ribs feel like they might shatter. Enough was enough. For years, I’d put up with my mind torturing me. With waking up everyday and having to fight back against the part of me that tells me I can’t. With adapting my habits, going through the exhausting motions of Pretending To Be Fine on the days where I was anything but. Triathlon was my light in all this and now that was being taken away I wasn’t prepared to put up with it any more. 

Triathlon-related anxiety was a symptom, not a cause

At the time I thought it was triathlon. I thought maybe that was just one more thing that I couldn’t do. But actually it was everything else. The relentless pressure of the everyday, building up and getting heavier by the minute. The anxiety around triathlon training was a symptom but it wasn’t the cause. Feeling like my safe, triathlon haven was being taken away from me was the wake up call, the trigger. It wasn’t triathlon that was breaking me, it was this life dictated by “should”. I was trying to do everything, be everything, please everyone. I was allowing myself to get bogged down by the weight of expectations - or my perception of them. And rather than being able to rationally take a step back, see that I was trying to juggle too much and allow myself to accept that it was okay to put some of those things down - give myself permission to prioritise what was actually important to me, rather than what I felt like I “should” prioritise - I was just piling on the pressure, and getting furious at myself for not being superhuman, or having 50 hours in a day. Setting myself an impossible task and then deciding there was something fundamentally wrong with me for not being able to keep doing it.

I thought finally asking for help would feel like a failure. But actually, I think it’s the bravest thing I’ve ever done. I’d got so close, so many times before. Typing out an email only to delete it. Saving a phone number for a counsellor, knowing I’d never quite be able to work up the nerve to dial it. But this time it was different. 

In a way, triathlon was saving me all over again - because it was the thought of losing that space of strength and positivity it gives me, that I can draw upon in other areas of my life when I need it most - that helped me to finally take the step, wave the white flag and say “I can’t do this anymore. I won’t do this anymore, and that’s okay. I don’t have to work this out on my own.” You might be reading this and thinking “yeah okay but why did it take triathlon to do that? Surely experiencing this in other areas of your life should have been impactful enough to prompt a change?” And I get it. It probably sounds at best, all a bit weird and triathlon-obsessed, and at worst incredibly self-centred. It wasn’t that it didn’t kill me to see how much my messy, tangled-up mind could affect my relationships, my experiences, my joie de vivre. It’s just that you end up sub-consciously adapting, and it becomes a new normal. This new anxiety around my tri training was just that - new. And it was tangible. There was nowhere to hide. I couldn’t put on my mask and perform the “happy bubbly Jenny show” like I would in a social situation. When you literally can’t complete a training session and it’s purely because your mind is working against you - there’s no denial. But - and it’s a big peachy but - just because it was triathlon that prompted me to ask for help, doesn’t mean that all the work I’ve done with my counsellor since hasn’t had a massively positive impact outside of just swim-bike-run training. 

Prioritising mental fitness like I would physical fitness

The thing is, in endurance sports if you have an injury or the new brand of energy gel you’ve started using gives you the shits - you acknowledge it. You say “okay, something’s not working as it should here, something’s not quite right” and instead of just being angry at yourself, you work out what’s happening so that you can do something about it. With ill mental health and negative emotions - we have a tendency (and I say we - maybe this is just a “me” thing and I’m being unfair, but I do feel like as a society we have a tendency to perpetuate this kind of toxic positivity) to try and hide away from them, to ignore them, or to immediately change them. To get annoyed at ourselves for even experiencing them in the first place. We don’t allow ourselves to take a look at our thoughts and behaviours and say “something’s not quite right here, let’s work out why.” Instead it’s “pull yourself together”, “cheer up”, “be positive”. And so those “bad” feelings get squirrelled away into a little black box, locked up tight, getting heavier by the day until it feels like you’ve got an anvil sitting right in the centre of your sternum. 

Personally I’ve always felt like acknowledging these negative thoughts would be letting them win - I was scared of them. If I opened that lid, they might consume me. I might be tempted to wallow, then stagnate, and then drown. But actually, by trying so damn hard to fight them, to hide them, to ignore them - I was giving them more power. I was equipping them with the strength and the mystery of the unknown. Every time I tried to squash them down, I was actually compacting them and making them stronger. It gets to a point where you feel a bit shit - and then you’re furious at yourself for feeling shit, so then you feel shit about feeling shit. It just becomes this great big shit sandwich. And sure, there are layers of peanut butter somewhere in there - from the days where you wake up feeling good (and you notice these days because it’s unusual - technicolour amid the grayscale), but to paraphrase Stephen Fry in a podcast interview with Bryony Gordon: “It doesn’t matter how clean the water looks, even if there’s just one little turd in there - the whole pool is contaminated.” 

Going to therapy for the first time was scary, but my counsellor helped me to see that by allowing myself to acknowledge my emotions - all of them - by holding them up to the light and being curious, instead of furious, I could start to understand them and loosen the hold they had on me. In the same way that after a big race or an injury I would nourish my body with good food, with a sports massage, with rest - I’m learning to nourish my mind by listening to it, acknowledging it and asking “why?” to work out what I need. Instead of punishing myself, loathing myself for being “broken”, and trying to out-run my own thoughts. And good grief - that’s empowering. 

It’s going to be a long process. I’ve been working on it for seven months now and I’m under no illusion that I’m “fixed” - because, are any of us, really? Everyone’s got a little shit sandwich tucked away in their metaphorical lunch box. It’s about acceptance and curiosity. My mind is always going to be a complicated, messy place. And actually, that’s okay. Instead of hating it, I can appreciate it - for all the trouble it causes me, it’s also allowed me to get to where I am. To write music in my teenage years spent gigging in an all-girl punk band. To choreograph dances to teach to the kids when I was a dance teacher. To come up with ideas for articles and social media campaigns at work. To write blog posts about poo sandwiches and bum cracks. To take on an Ironman triathlon - twice.

Asking for help has just given me the tools to find the end of the tangled up ball of wool that is my mind, and to start unravelling it and understanding it better. It’s making me stronger, more resilient, more capable - and it’s thanks to triathlon that I’ve found my way here. My runaway train mindset of gritting my teeth, of relentless determination, of breaking myself over and over with the hope that I’d be able to rebuild a little stronger each time, wasn’t sustainable. Now I’m learning to find a balance where I can be tenacious, I can have that fire in my belly and that fight in my heart - but I can also be kind to myself. Where I can see failure as an opportunity, something to examine rather than to hide from. Seven months down the line, I’m feeling mentally and physically stronger than ever. Just as we work hard on getting our base of endurance, I’ve been working hard on getting my base of resilience. And that can only be a good thing- in triathlon, and in life.

Finding balance

So where do I go from here? As we start to adapt to life with COVID-19 and the pace of the world around us picks up again, how do I avoid getting caught in the rip-tide and sucked right back into the routine that was breaking me? It’s going to be about asking questions, and being honest. Allowing myself to say “no” sometimes. Having the confidence - the fidelity to self - to do what’s authentic to me, without feeling like I have to throw energy into getting approval and permission from others. It’s okay if we have different ideas of what’s important. It’s okay to change our minds. It’s actually really bloody great if you can admit to mistakes and learn from them. Acknowledge when something’s not quite right, and turn a complaint into a goal. It’s going to be about giving myself permission to be me rather than trying to be everything. Learning a new way of being there for others without taking the full weight of the world on my shoulders. Being curious, being honest and taking a breath - instead of just blindly stumbling on.

It’s a process, but triathlon got me to the start line. And that's precisely why I love this sport so wholeheartedly - why I'm willing to pour all of my energy and spare time in to it. Because it goes far beyond the swim-bike-run. Triathlon has saved me from myself.

The Training Diaries: For the love of it

"Speed bump ahead". It's ironic really. I posted the photo above on Instagram back in November 2019, with a (suitably w*nky) caption: "Fairly certain the (metaphorical) road to Ironman Vitoria-Gasteiz will be bumpy, challenging and I'll probably encounter a few potholes. But I'm fired up and ready to work harder than ever." Those metaphorical potholes I referenced? I was thinking they'd probably be more along the lines of little niggly injuries, tough days in the saddle, the odd failed interval run session. But the great big, gaping sinkhole that has been 2020? Well, it's safe to say none of us were predicting this particular bump in the road.

I haven't actually posted on here since a few days after Ironman Zurich 2019, almost a year ago. I have plenty of half-finished posts squirrelled away in the drafts folder, but life just got a bit crazy and then the longer I left it the harder it was to know where to start. So, here's a whistlestop tour of stuff that happened after Ironman Zurich:

1) I started a new job in a different department at work, representing a step up in hours and responsibility. Communications Executive by day, triathlon-obsessed weirdo by early morning/lunch break/every other spare hour. Several months later, they're still putting up with me and I'm feeling grateful to have a job I genuinely enjoy (and a boss who is also into triathlon - perfect!)

2) I entered another Ironman. After a strategy meeting over a particularly strong cappuccino with my coach at the aptly named 'Ideas Cafe' one lunch break, a battle plan was set and I had Ironman Vitoria-Gasteiz 2020 in my sights. Big goals were in place and I was all fired up and ready to push myself harder than ever.

3) I got to head out to Hawaii on spectator duties for G at the 2019 Ironman World Championships in October. It was the most incredible, surreal (and humid) experience and it's just made me even more determined to earn my spot to race there some day, however long that takes. The promise of a Longboard lager in Island Lava Java will forever be my motivation.

4) We got married! It was the most amazing day, and watching the video back now - with everything that's happened this year - Graham and I feel even more lucky to have been able to celebrate with a room full of our favourite people.

5) In January, I finally worked up the courage to start tackling the anxiety and other brain gremlins that have had a grip on me for way too long. More on that another time (if I ever work up the courage to hit publish...)

2019 as a whole, was a whirlwind. Moving house, changing career, racing an Ironman and getting married in the space of 12 months was incredible, but also a little bit exhausting. In December, I joked that I planned to spend 2020 laying down in a dark room. Apparently the Universe was listening, and three months later the world was in lockdown. Careful what you wish for!

Needless to say, racing an Ironman this July was swept off the agenda. There's been so much that has been terrible about this pandemic - and my thoughts are with all the people who have lost loved ones, livelihoods and precious time with family during all this. But one thing that has been such a positive for me is that it's just given me the space and time to take a step off the conveyor belt, assess my priorities and just breathe.

Lockdown has reaffirmed my love of triathlon. I'd got myself on a bit of a runaway train after Ironman Zurich, where my relentless internal drive to always be pushing, chasing, achieving, was starting to border on the unhealthy. I was so busy trying to out run my own fear of failure, that somewhere I lost the joy. And then COVID-19 happened. And actually, that enforced sudden shift put the brakes on that runaway train. With racing off of the agenda, I discovered that I still wanted to train. That my motivation was still right there with me. I didn't need a looming date in the diary to scare me in to doing the hard work. I was more than happy to go out and run 20 miles for the love of it. To spend entire Sunday mornings out on my bike for the joy of it. I even missed the 5am wake-up calls for swim squad and the lingering scent of chlorine. The doubts that had started to gather about whether I should be putting so much of my energy into triathlon were eradicated. The fear of failure turned into a pure, simple, love of swim-bike-run. Early in the lockdown, I wrote a post for the Stolen Goat blog about training as an anchor during tumultuous times. And honestly? Triathlon has been my lifejacket this year. It's given me focus, a sense of achievement and a sense of normality. The flying shit show that has been 2020 so far, has given me gratitude for the things I took for granted, and an appreciation of all my privileges.

So, now what? Yesterday should have been Ironman #3 for me, but instead I celebrated Not Race Day with a lake swim followed by just under 110km on the bike and a great big glass of Sangria when I got home. Training-wise, things have obviously been a little bit different without a race to build for, and I've worked with my coach to shift to a focus on maintaining a level of endurance while also building strength and power. I've been averaging between 12-14 hours a week, which has been enough to keep me out of mischief but not so much that I'll burn out. I've had plenty of quality time with my new road bike - there may have been a touch of mischief and a shiny new Liv Langma Advanced Pro 2 Disc may have turned up on my door step - and I've also added in more strength and core conditioning, along with daily yoga practice.

With 1 year to go until Ironman Vitoria-Gasteiz 2021, I'm actually feeling really positive. Early on in lockdown I chose to see this as an opportunity. Races might be cancelled, but that doesn't mean dreams, ambitions and goals have to be. I'm using this time to get my body and, crucially, my mind stronger than ever. And when I eventually get on that start line, it will be with a heightened sense of just how lucky I am to be able to do so. The fear and self-punishment that was starting to break me at the start of the year is gone. Right now, I'm soaking up every moment of joy from every training session and I'm excited to see what this body of mine can do over the next year.

There's not a doubt in my mind that triathlon is home for me. My swim-bike-run focussed life may seem crazy to others, my priorities might seem all out of whack - but the space this year has given me, means I know I'm doing exactly what is authentic, important and real for me. There's so much pressure to live your life according to what you should be doing and what's expected of you. Happiness comes when you allow yourself to walk your own path, and respect the paths of others. Do your thing (and don't be a dick).

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